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Comment on lonesome? by Lalanii

Lalanii — Mon, 21 May 2012 13:25:56 +0000

Thank you!! Actually, I just might have a blog soon featuring how (and why) I became a writer, and addressing the fact that I still kept my day job, and that it’s always a struggle—but a struggle I choose and am so in love with. Thanks for commenting, and please please, be back soon!

Comment on lonesome? by Juan

Juan — Sun, 20 May 2012 15:28:44 +0000

I really like your blog. Really. I wish every English teecahr could read how you became a writer. (I was one for 20 years.) Maybe you wouldn’t have such a clear, honest voice if those shitty teecahrs hadn’t made it so easy for you to see that their opinions don’t matter? (Nah, there really isn’t any silver lining in having those kinds of teecahrs. I’m guessing you’re the writer you are in spite of them, not because of them.) I found your blog because you commented on mine, one I recently launched and thought of as being mostly for middle-aged women (like me). You’ve got me thinking maybe not so much. I’ll definitely be back.

Comment on This Is The Problem I Want To Have by Lalanii

Lalanii — Wed, 16 May 2012 20:54:22 +0000

Danielle,

That was found on Goodreads. If you don’t have a Goodreads you better go get one!!! (http://www.goodreads.com/) Thanks for reading and especially for commenting—keeps me goin’

Muahhhhh,

Comment on This Is The Problem I Want To Have by dmpoetry

dmpoetry — Wed, 16 May 2012 20:31:40 +0000

Lalanii! I found your blog via Daniel Romo. I love this quote from Galway Kinnell. Where-o-where did you find it?
Best,
Danielle

Comment on Long Term Relationships = Complacency by Lalanii

Lalanii — Mon, 23 Apr 2012 16:45:42 +0000

Seriously! HAHAHA, thanks for the comment.

Comment on Long Term Relationships = Complacency by Red

Red — Wed, 18 Apr 2012 04:59:31 +0000

Sounds like so knowledge everyone should hold on to….

Comment on “If they don’t chase you when you walk away you are foolish as shit and never should have walked away if you wanted them to chase you- it’s only right you walk away and be by your lonesome on a time out and sit and think about how unutterably stupid you’ve behaved” lol. by Lalanii

Lalanii — Tue, 27 Mar 2012 22:28:46 +0000

Hahah! Always love a comment on an older post. Thank you. It is very true, when someone expects you to run after—they weren’t ready to leave. Foolishness I tell you—foolishness! Thanks!

Comment on “If they don’t chase you when you walk away you are foolish as shit and never should have walked away if you wanted them to chase you- it’s only right you walk away and be by your lonesome on a time out and sit and think about how unutterably stupid you’ve behaved” lol. by Solongo (@ssolongoo)

Solongo (@ssolongoo) — Tue, 27 Mar 2012 03:07:07 +0000

Omg… such true words! Thanks for posting this! It made me to realize “something”… I like the quotes, “If you expect me to chase you when you walk away, you never should have walked away and you’re wasting valuable time.”

“I don’t run after fools who expect me to. If the person runs away from something they truly love—they’re dense and brainless to think that I should be as stupid as they are and run after them.”

Comment on Cheaters Never Win! by Lalanii

Lalanii — Sun, 11 Mar 2012 14:49:48 +0000

Yea, Chyna, only because I’ve loved someone more than myself have I known that that way doesn’t work (for me). I never look for a person who would stand the part of a “what have you done for me lately” female. Now, I would be more likely to go for a person who believes “let me see what I can do for myself, and what can I do for her that might complement what she’s already doing for herself.”

The value of a person goes beyond tangible things, yes, I agree. But more in the way that’s similar to “help those who help themselves.” I would never be the person I am today if I didn’t have a mother who firmly believed in that idiom.

Because Deductive reasoning will tell you if you don’t attain the things you want for yourself, then they aren’t truly earned—they’ve just been given—like the mother that gives her child any and everything and he has no idea how to live once she’s gone. Again, deductive reasoning would be the flight attendant that announces “Should the plane experience turbulence, SECURE YOUR MASK FIRST, and then reach over to help your children.”

If there’s no push and pull (not necessarily in a manipulative way) in an intriguing way, then a relationship will likely taper off, just as friendships do. What happens to the friend I ALWAYS have to call and she rarely calls me back? Well, eventually I stop calling because no one likes a one sided friendship. If I push you (nudge you) you should push me back, and if I pull you, likely the friends I have and still have, will pull back. So I’ll get witty and funny texts like these:

FRIEND: I hope you didn’t die, call me if you’re still breathing
or
FRIEND: Hey stranger, don’t be strange

I have loved people who weren’t in tune with “their best selves.” I have seen one of those people become a doctor, and one of those people drop out of school and lose his job. Who is more attractive to me right now? The doctor obviously. Not because of the money he may or may not make, but because of the drive he had to have to get there. He put his mind to something and did it with/without me. But it doesn’t mean I don’t still have great feelings for my drop out. I don’t love people for what they are, but rather who they are, as well. Professions come and go. Who am I dating now? Neither. I’m currently a free agent, just dating one guy I like a lot.

As any mother I want the best for my child and would do any any anything for him, but the lessons he’s learned from me aren’t when I’ve given him EVERY thing (as I usually do) but rather when I’ve taken away and he’s straightened up his act. Surely, though I don’t use these tactics on any person I’m with romantically. I can love my son more than myself. But a significant other, he’ll have to stay equal to my love for myself, at best. I’m still a work-in-progress, but I like it this way.

Kudos to you and your boyfriend for that support, and thanks for your comments, lots to think about! XOXOOOXX!

Comment on Cheaters Never Win! by unknown

unknown — Sun, 11 Mar 2012 01:16:10 +0000

Hey Lalanii,
I love your viewpoint.
It’s kind of like the mother and her cub. She will give up her own life to save that of her baby cub. Ive seen much of that love in people where the parent loves their children more than they love themselves. They see more than that “what have you done for me lately” viewpoint. I just believe the value of someone goes far beyond tangible things. And if the manipulation of pushing and pulling is needed in a relationship, then to me that isn’t true love. I love my boyfriend for who he is not for what he is. Although I know his clumsy butt can do much more with himself. LoL. I support him, and I make sure he feels it. Because when we’re together I know the love I feel from him. It makes me know everything’s going to be alright. And it lets me know that with his love and support, we can get through so much together. I Love him to death.

Thank you for your thoughts,
whoever earned the privilege of your heart is a lucky man.