Eh Melo, what you do to her? LOL. Is this even true? More publicity? They got Nikki's PR team. Lol. I digress.
You want to believe that there's one relationship in life that's beyond betrayal. A relationship that's beyond that kind of hurt. And there isn't.
~ Caleb Carr
So is there any reason a person should cheat on their other half? So like, what if he's like never attentive, or like f*in' other hoes? What if he's like incredibly foul to her behind closed doors? What if he's treated her like she means nothing to him for years? What if he works like, all, the, time? What if she does? What if they have an open relationship? What if it isn't what they both signed up for initially... as with all relationships, they change over time. What if you still love the person who can't be what you need at this time? What if she's like an evil broad and has grown into her own selfishness? What if she closes off and chooses not to love the way she used to because she no longer sees the future the same way? What if... what if... what if...
I think two things should go into a relationship among many others things.
UNDERSTANDING and COMMUNICATION.
Understand what you're up against. Relationships are hard and no matter how comfortable and open you are in the beginning. Married or not, it is hard to cuddle/co-exist with another person - not to mention their lifestyles. Mix in personal goals/celebrity status or rumors and you've got the recipe for haphazardry. LOL.
I have always said there is not one person ever in life, that won't cheat on you. What? At least I'm honest. I think it mostly depends on who your partner is and what he or she wants and ultimately needs out of the relationship. That is what determines whether or not a person is or will cheat on you. You consistently let someone down? You consistently show someone they aren't important to you? You consistently don't support, show interest, or interact? You're probably getting cheated on. LOL. Keyword: consistently.
Years ago a friend said to me a pretty well known quote ... "you're only as faithful as your options."@SingleDatingDiv talks about it here and she makes very good points. I think you don't have to find out or ask if your partner is cheating, I think you know that already. You know how happy you are and you can gauge how happy your other half is. You can feel the connection and then you can communicate about what your needs are.
Think of it like this: your "job" in a relationship is to be responsible for another person's happiness; their job is to be [to a careful extent, both sides] responsible for yours.
One of my favorite (2004) movies in the world is Closer (Julia Roberts, Natalie Portman, Clive Davis, Jude Law) I always go back to it. In the movie Alice (Portman) talks about the second you make a decision to cheat or to stay faithful, and you weigh your options.
Alice: Oh, as if you had no choice? There's a moment, there's always a moment, "I can do this, I can give into this, or I can resist it", and I don't know when your moment was, but I bet you there was one.
And when he actually gives reason, which is the hardest:
Alice: Is it because she's successful?
Dan: No. It's because... she doesn't need me.
And Julia Roberts and Clive Davis are emotionally driven characters with this banter after she cheats in the movie:
Larry: Is he a good fuck?
Anna: Don't do this.
Larry: Just answer the question! Is he good?
Larry: Better than me?
Larry: What does that mean?
Anna: You know what it means.
Larry: Tell me!
Larry: I treat you like a whore?
Larry: Why would that be?
Y'all can't say this image of a gif isn't the funniest thing ever:
So if no one is above cheating, (Pompey, Huff Post) I think the key is attentiveness and with that: communication and understanding. Communicate, understand. Understand what's communicated. Understand your partner's needs and wants.
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